Burying my dad a week ago has made me think about death a lot but more importantly, about the kind of life I want to live.
Hearing and reading all the amazing things people have said about him has been making me think about my life, not so much about what I want people to say when I die but about what I am doing with it while I can.
I have always cared about living intentionally, with purpose, but lately, its become more important that I live well, that I empty myself out before I leave this earth. More than anything, I want to make God proud of creating me and so I want to make sure that my stint on earth brings Him pleasure and pride.
The passing of the famous Black Panther embodied by the recently deceased Chadwick Boseman is serving as another reminder to live intentionally. Coincidentally, both died of cancer so this latest death has been quite the trigger.
I have been watching his videos since the news of his death broke. As I kept watching them, I noticed something. I saw someone who was living intentionally, with purpose, who was not squandering his life but seizing every opportunity, every minute of his life to do impactful things.
According to the press release, Boseman was diagnosed with stage III colon cancer in 2016 and battled with it privately for the past four years as it progressed to stage IV.
The incredible thing is that he somehow managed to make movies like
Black Panther, Avengers, Da 5 Bloods, and one of his last screen performances, Ma Rainey’s Black Bottom while undergoing numerous surgeries and chemotherapy.
Most of these movies were very physical but he did it anyway while battling cancer. My dad’s painful battle with the terrible disease started during his last years on earth. I don't want to imagine what it was like to have this illness and still go film action movies but that's what he did.
I wonder if knowing that he could die soon served as motivation to continue to do impactful work. This is not to glamorise his pain or to form ‘awon aspire to perspire’ gang.
Nope, that's not my intention. But I am someone who likes to find the silver lining in things and so these deaths have served as a reminder for me to continue to live intentionally.
Sometimes, we get carried away with our challenges and the struggles of life, which is understandable. But living intentionally, with purpose gives you the motivation to push on.
Knowing that your life isn’t just for you, that other people’s destinies are attached to you serves as motivation, as fuel to wake up and do what needs to be done especially when you are not feeling it.
So, I ask you, what do you want to do with your life? In the end, if you are fortunate to get there, do you want to be able to look back and be satisfied with what you see or be filled with regrets?
We only get one life, one chance to empty ourselves, live a life of service to God and humanity as we bless others with our talents, smiles, company, ‘wahala’ and joy. So, act, write, dance, sing, do what you have been called to do because tomorrow is not promised.
I hope this encourages you to take stock of your life, what you have done so far, what you want to do moving forward and do exactly that. Stop making excuses or focusing on what you don't have.
Focus instead on what you do have right now and what you can do with it. That's exactly what I am going to be doing and I hope you join me in this living intentionally thing. I am rooting for you.
Thank you for subscribing and for reading to this point. This is the tenth issue of the Breakdown. I am so excited we have made it this far. I have to apologise for the inconsistencies during this period. I took some time to bury my dad but I'm back now.
The eleventh issue will be out on Thursday, September 3, 2020. I will be writing on these annoying things called insecurities. I can not wait for you to read it.
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Near death experience or death of loved ones can shock us and cause us to evaluate our in the universe. noteworthy that people can react with depression to tragic nature of end of life. It's hard. I wish everyone the best on this journey of life
This article is apt. Thanks for sharing this.